Wednesday, March 6, 2013

Tunnel Vision

Lastnight I spoke to my husband about Kaleigh.  We both feel that so much time is spent helping Austin that we have not put the time in to make sure Kaleigh is where she should be for her age.  Things like spelling and numbers came so easily to Austin, it is more of a challenge for Kaleigh.  She is definitely the hands on and artist in the family.  Where Austin has strengths, Kaleigh has weaknesses and where Austin has weaknesses, Kaleigh has strengths.  They are polar opposites.  They are both very bright, just in different ways.

I am not as sad this morning.  I do feel a lot of Mommie guilt because I think that I have let her down.  Spending a lot of my time helping Austin and taking for granted that she is "typical" and does not need help, not like Austin anyway.  My husband and will put in time with her to bring her up to speed.  The child is as sharp as a tack and we feel she can learn these things easily, we just have not given her the chance she needs or deserves.  Sometimes it is really hard to admit that you made a mistake or taken something for granted.  I am there today but we will do our very best to get Kaleigh to the place she deserves and needs to be.  We love you Sassy! :)

All the best!  *HUGS*


Judy Whatilivefor said...

I think my parents worried a lot about my brother and me who were typical because so much of their time was devoted to taking my other 2 brothers to speech & occupational therapy and working with them at home. I think the thing that really mattered was that they tried to take time to spend with us one-on-one. Mommy-daughter dates, daddy-daughter dates, etc. I think Kaleigh will always know how hard you tried, and will realize that Austin does/did need more help.

You are a fabulous mom, and your love for your children shines through your blog!

Mommie that Gets It said...

Hi Judy,

Thank you for posting this Judy! I do spend a lot of time with Kaleigh when Austin is in school but maybe making special time would help. :) Great suggestion! :)

Thank you so much! That is so sweet for you to say!


Victoria said...

Like Judy mentioned, we find that dates go a really long way towards keeping everyone happy. Daddy takes Froggy out on a date and comes home telling me all these things she told him and it blows me away. On the other hand, she reads to me before bedtime and that's my time with her. It also gives me a chance to see where she's at and where she's going.

You're an amazing mom. Don't let the guilt drag you down.