The other day I was telling this story to my friend. I think it is really appropriate for Autism Awareness Month.
Not so long ago, I was visiting someone very close to me and dear to my heart. It was an afternoon visit (I do not do these often because they are harder on Austin). We were delayed in leaving; never a good thing. I try to stick to an hour or an hour and a half tops for a visit, especially with both children and when I am alone. It goes much better if I stick to this plan. So we were late leaving and well, things got a little hairy! This is to be expected since Austin gets stimulated and tired. Add Kaleigh to the mix and you get a three ring circus! (Or maybe a two ring one in this case.) I kid you not!
I went out and loaded my SUV with the kids' things and came back into the house to get them dressed. I cannot even tell you how long this took, a long time ... more than 15 minutes, that's long for them. Anyway, I eventually got them in the truck after a lot of counting and repeating. I walked back up the driveway to say "goodbye" to this person I hold very dear to me. Once I got there, they said to me "I would not want your life!" I was so shocked! I felt like someone punched my heart right out of my chest and it landed somewhere on the ground behind me. It really, really hurt my feelings, and I said "How can you say that to me?". "I LOVE my family!" They responded with "I know, I just couldn't handle that kind of pressure, it's a lot.". I guess I do not see my life the way other people do. I just go day by day like anyone else. Now I know this person did not mean to hurt me, I get that. It is not their fault.
Before I left, I explained that this behaviour is expected by Austin because he is on the spectrum and this person is aware of this fact. It doesn't matter though, sometimes it just doesn't seem to compute. It does not stop me from trying to raise awareness and explain to people that Austin is reacting a certain way because he is on the spectrum. People will "get it", or they won't. I will not give up trying to get people to understand. Knowledge is power people!
Peace and *HUGS* to all! :)
P.S. Thanks to Leslie for inspiring me to write this post. :)